I forgot…

I cannot tell you how much those two words having been winding me up lately.

Every time they emerge from Alex’s mouth, I find my face morphing into an ‘are you f*cking serious’ look.

There had been some underlying tensions in our relationship for a short while, but Alex was none the wiser…

I’d asked him to do a number of things that still hadn’t been done and it had been his turn to clean the bathroom for the last couple of weeks. Determined not to ask him to do something that should’ve already been on his radar, I clung onto the vain hope that I would one day wake up to find him cleaning of his own accord. Wishful thinking, that as time went on, resulted in one very passive-aggressive wife…

While this is just a silly anecdote about my other half not doing his fair share of the household chores (no shock there), it is indicative of how little things can become big things if you’re not communicating.

As a couple, the differences in our personalities work to our advantage most of the time, but they do sometimes lead to frustrations. A little to and fro is an inescapable part of any relationship – romantic or not – and communication is the key to making sure it doesn’t breakdown past the point of no return.

I wish I didn’t have to remind Alex to do things, but I know deep down that there is never anything malicious behind his actions (or lack thereof). He just doesn’t work in the same way that I do. When something is on my to-do list, I can’t relax until it’s done. Alex, on the other hand, doesn’t even have a to-do list…

Have you found yourself getting frustrated with anyone in your life lately? Can you honestly say you’ve communicated effectively and told them outright what you need from them? If not, do it now. And if you feel like you already have, do it again.

I can easily talk myself out of repeating what I need from Alex because I feel like it falls on deaf ears sometimes, but if I’m not communicating with him when something is bothering me, I’m just as much to blame for any strain that is put on our relationship. As the saying goes, if you don’t ask you don’t get, so many sure you’re asking for what you need from the other person in your relationship.

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