The culture we live in often demands that we put others ahead of ourselves, especially as a woman. Helping others rightfully holds a place in this world, but we must remember that this shouldn’t be as a detriment to ourselves – which we all know it can be from time-to-time.
When we think about putting ourselves first, the word ‘selfish’ can spring to mind. This comes with a whole host of negative connotations and our concerns that centre around appearing to be self-absorbed can put us off making any changes in this area. But, as the saying goes, everything in moderation is good for us and little selfishness can definitely help us to get to where we want to be.
We make decisions every day, big and small, and if we’re thinking about everyone else ahead of ourselves, we’re not necessarily going to make the decision that’s best for us personally.
I’d like you to think now about the respect you show your nearest and dearest when you’re listening to them tell you about a problem they’re facing. When you have a problem to solve or a decision to make, do you treat yourself with this same level of respect? The answer is probably not. We’re all guilty of putting the needs of others ahead of our own, but let’s just trial putting ourselves first for once.
This week, before you make any decision that comes your way, I want you to ask yourself: what’s in it for me? Will the decision you’re about to make bring happiness into your life or will it bring undue stress? Instead of thinking solely about the needs of others, think about what you will get out of it and whether it’s really worth it for you. I promise you’ll be surprised by how much easier the decision making process is when you evaluate the pros and cons from this angle.